The parents using play to stop children getting ‘trapped’ by screens
The parents using play to stop children getting ‘trapped’ by screens
Recent UK government recommendations suggest that children aged under five should be restricted to a daily maximum of one hour on screens, while toddlers under two should avoid unattended screen time. The guidance promotes “screen swaps”—replacing digital entertainment with in-person activities such as storytelling or playing games together. However, parents describe the challenge of implementing these changes, as the demands of daily life, financial pressures, and the allure of technology often take precedence.
A father’s mission to rekindle connection
Errol Murray, founder of Leeds Dads, has made it his personal goal to help families reconnect. Every Saturday, he joins his 10-year-old son Isaac and other local fathers for new experiences, from exploring nature at a lake to participating in soft play sessions that include a complimentary breakfast. “It’s refreshing to break away from screens,” Errol explains, noting a shift in his son’s behavior: “When we give them a brief warning to switch off devices, they still react with frustration. You need something that pulls them away from phones, tablets, and screens because they can become stuck in that cycle.”
“Doing something with your kids, instead of saying ‘see you when you get back,’ allows you to create real bonds,” says Errol.
Group walks in the park are a favorite, especially when Isaac brings his remote-control car along. “These moments build a meaningful connection,” he adds, emphasizing the value of shared activities over passive screen use.
Research highlights the importance of in-person interaction
A recent study by the National Literacy Trust revealed that 25% fewer parents engage in daily play with their children since 2019. Researchers from Durham University and the University of East Anglia tracked over 6,000 hours of language exposure across 163 toddlers, focusing on the impact of in-person conversations versus screen-based listening. Using MRI scans, they observed that children exposed to richer interactions developed greater myelin, which enhances the speed and efficiency of neural communication.
“The words children hear during these early years are literally shaping their brain,” notes Dr Samuel Forbes.
Kirsty MacDonald, head of early years at the National Literacy Trust, highlights that families facing financial hardship often lack the support, information, and resources to limit screen time effectively. Challenges include work commitments, the cost of local activities, and the convenience of technology. Yet, for some, screens still serve a role in family bonding. Sam, a Leeds Dads member, shares his family’s approach: “We use screens at home, but with a twist. I play music on my tablet, a hobby I now enjoy with my five and six-year-old kids.”
“I’ve always loved music, but after becoming a dad, I struggled to find time for myself. Now it’s a way to connect with them,” Sam says.
Despite the difficulties, communities are finding innovative ways to balance technology with hands-on engagement. While tiredness after work or school can make it hard to introduce new routines, parents agree that seizing small opportunities for connection remains essential.
